This post has been de-listed
It is no longer included in search results and normal feeds (front page, hot posts, subreddit posts, etc). It remains visible only via the author's post history.
I would love someone to have a productive challenging conversation with me on this.
As someone who suffered from RJ, I see a lot of advice saying “the past is the past and her past experiences have led her to you” or “she chose you”
Here is my issue with that. It’s not really true for a causal sense. If my current girlfriend has some casual no strings attached relationships in college, how would that influence us meeting and being together at all? She still would have accepted the same job we met at and we still would have fallen in love. Her having those casual hookups did not “lead her to me” and she didn’t make a choice to not be with that man. It was causal and never in the cards.
I know there is a path to healing and overcoming RJ but would love some clarification and deeper meaning behind this reasoning.
Her path and choices don’t matter, because in the end she is still with you. Whether her casual hookups existed or not, she is with you. If she would have had long term relationships a ton, it still wouldn’t have “lead” her to you. It just doesn’t matter.
Think of it like this— your past situations no longer matter to you, they hold no weight/value in your current life. Because your current girlfriend is of value to you.
Subreddit
Post Details
- Posted
- 10 months ago
- Reddit URL
- View post on reddit.com
- External URL
- reddit.com/r/retroactive...