This is the context of the issue. I’ve always had rj with regards to my wife’s past. She was promiscuous with fucks, flings, one night stands, fwb and whatnots. And whenever rj attacked, she’d always say, it was “before you”. Those were the words to shut me up.

In 2019, she had an affair till he left her in 2021. This was the time when we were already together since 2016. I found out about it in early 2023. I went all apeshit. I’d have to say, it broke me good. Sometime in 2020 he gave her a necklace which she told me was from family before our time and only then she decided to wear it, so I took it in at face value. She wore it 24/7. Till the time he broke up with her and she gave it back to him soon after. They ended on “good terms” and she does not have a grudge against him.

We have talked and I have not left her and we have been trying to make things work, but during those times, a lot of pictures were taken and memories made, with family and friends. And the pictures, mainly in our social media, clearly show the necklace proudly displayed there. And every time I see it, it triggers me. But this time she says, it’s in the past, let us look to the future. But when I see it, my rj triggers, it brings me back to the pain I felt when I found out. To delete those pictures would mean to delete the good memories of the event and the good times we had. But to leave it there, once I see it, the pain returns.

I really do not know what to do. Why should I delete good times because of her infidelity. But at the same time it pains me to the deepest part of my heart when I see it proudly displayed on her neck in past pictures. I need help. I am at a loss on what to do. It’s a lose lose situation for me.