My wife (50f) and I (39m) have a great relationship overall, however, I am in need of some help on how to work through this issue that has currently befallen our relationship. Epic blockbuster movie of 2024 comes out, and our friend group has an opportunity where the majority of us are able to go and see it. My wife has to attend a funeral of one of her former students, I have to work, so I cannot go to the funeral, but I get off work at a time where I can still make the movie. I knew all of this information, and I planned on opting out of going with our friends. As we are sitting there with our friends she unbeknownst to me encourages one of them to make sure I get invited to go to the movie. When they ask me, I say I really need to talk it over with my wife before I make a final decision. She then seriously encourages me to go so I begrudgingly accept the invite already knowing that this is going to breed trouble. When we get in the car at the end of our night I tell her that I would much prefer to wait until she is able to go and see the movie with me but she reassured me multiple times that she is ok with the plan and she would meet up with us after, so I stayed the course and went. Her plan was to go with one of the other girlfriends in the group that also could not see the movie because she worked. She asks this person, they turn her down because it really wasn’t important to them to see the film. Since this has happened I have offered to take her several times which were rejected because I already “had the first time experience” so it would be “pointless for me to go again because that is half of her fun is talking about the movie afterwards.” Now this situation has gotten out of hand, she feels friendless and unloved, I feel insecure af because she encouraged me to go, and all I’ve been hearing since is negativity about it to the point where I try to keep our interactions short, we haven’t had sex in weeks, because all roads lead back to this discussion, with no end in sight. I’ve tried being supportive, I’ve tried being angry, I’ve tried being indifferent, I’ve tried just listening and letting her get it all out but she just ends up repeating herself. I even went out and dropped 100$ on tickets for the new Beetlejuice film on release night, which our plans got canceled due to another engagement. Clearly I’m putting in the effort. Why do I still feel like I’m losing?