Been dating my partner for 1.5 years. It's all well and good and I honestly have very few complaints, save for super minor things. It's just a little point of stress between us right now that we aren't living together.

Early on she discovered that my mother was abusive and since then was very encouraging of me to move out. This became a major source of conflict when my mother started disapproving of her after she found out about her background and banned her from the house after a long yelling session over the phone. It became more difficult for me to spend time with her also because I constantly get badgered whenever I leave the house, getting called every hour and bombarded with texts. Things have slowed down and I'm setting better boundaries with my mother, who still harasses me, but I'm still able to put up with her insults and yelling even though it ruins some mornings or evenings. Sometimes my partner is able to come over also and the two can be civil with each other.

We meet each other on the weekends and occasionally during the week, but it's still not enough for her. Over the months she's wanted more physical time together. She talks about how much she hates that my mother has to be in a good mood for her to be able to see me at my home, and that I need to be in a good mood myself to come out & spend time with her. She wants to just be able to spend the evening with me in silence. And in her words:

"I don't want to see your texts saying that you'll do the dishes or the laundry, I want to do them with you. I hate that I can't ice your head or give you a massage when you have period migraines, while the person who gets to see you every day yells and calls you lazy because you didn't scoop the cat litter at 7am after you worked until 1am."

There is so much also that is intertwined. We talk almost constantly and know practically every detail about each others' lives. We know all of each other's passwords to everything and she even pays some of my bills sometimes. I owe her about a third of a month's salary right now, even.

We both live with our parents rent-free, her with her family and me with my single mother as an only child. We're not from the US so currency is hard to explain; I earn an average income for white collar work, she earns double what I make. She has done the math — we could afford moving out from our parents if we both gave up half our take-home pay. Unfortunately, due to some bad financial decisions and impulsive spending, I only have 1 month's salary worth of savings. She feels more confident, I think, because she has 50 times that amount saved up.

I don't feel so comfortable relying on myself for expenses yet and would like to save up a little more, but I know my partner is unhappy. I'm having a hard time thinking of compromises.

tl;dr: financially stable partner wants to move in with me, i don't want to move out from my parents yet since i'm currently broke, how do i compromise so she isn't sad