So my boyfriend and I (21f) have been together 3.5 years- going on 4. Before we started having sex a couple of months into our relationship, he would make out with me, finger/oral, etc, so it's not that he doesn't know what to do or how to do it. The last year or so, it's been all about him in bed. He knows that females done finish very often through penetrative sex, and I tell him to take his time before doing so because A) its painful but B) I'm just not aroused. Nearly every time we have sex (a couple of times a week), I will give him oral, because he likes it, but I never receive any foreplay prior to sex, which is very frustrating considering I am the female here, and females require foreplay, whereas he will enjoy sex all the same with or without it. I am kind of uncomfortable talking about what I want him to do for me, how can I bring it up that he should at least touch my clit, even just one brush jesus, prior to penetrating; and then feeling discouraged when I don't finish from penetrative sex.

tl;dr: Boyfriend never turns me on before having sex with me, and if there is foreplay, it consists of ME giving HIM oral.