tldr; My Gf (29F) has been with me (31M) since 2016 and I would like to get married in the near future. Unfortunately I got myself into debt and I am in the process of paying it all off which should basically be completed one year from now. My Gf is aware of this and we agreed to stay together so we can get married.

Lately my girlfriend has been rolling her eyes a lot at me, which I find a sign of disrespect. I know that I have been with her a long time to not get married, and I should have married her when I was NOT in debt, so I admit being a fuck up and not marrying her when I had a lot of money in my pocket.

She talked to her mom about me apparently being upset about her frequent eye rolling and her mom (who I suspect is gradually trying to pull her away but has been unsuccessful so far), told her "Absolutely not, when you were a baby you rolled your eyes all the time and we loved it. Tell him to get over it, he's the one who should be grateful you're still around."

As much as I'm upset about this, I understand that she feels bad about me due to the time we are together and not married. Still, it feels like a sign of disrespect to roll your eyes at a partner, I don't roll my eyes at her.

The other part of this, since 2020 she's been baby crazy and I hear about all these people getting engaged constantly (she's 29 I'm 31). The reality is we both moved in together after I graduated college in 2018 and I had 0 dollars to.my name. Now, I want to get married, maybe engaged in a year after my debt is paid off. But her talking about babies and engagement has turned into an almost daily discussion. It's become uncomfortable for me. She talks constantly about all the girls around her getting engaged and having babies and how it's extremely hard.

I did tell her I understand and I love you and I'm sorry we are in this predicament. If you want to leave you can go. I don't want to force you to wait for me.

To date she stays but every single time I see her family and several times a week at least with her they make sure I'm reminded she's not engaged or married and almost make me feel bad intentionally.

I understand she has hormones ranging but its just like if you talk about it THIS much like it's a daily discussion and obsession I feel like it's starting to ruin our relationships?

Thoughts on all of this? I know I fucked up not marrying her when I could easily. I take responsibility for that.