My mom lives in the same state as me, I live about 5 hours away in the same state completing my graduate degree. I don’t stay at my moms when I go visit as my boyfriend (23m) lives in the same area as my mom. I came down on Friday morning, as my boss said I could work remotely over the weekend, and went to see my mom during my shift (11-5) as she had just came out of the hospital. I got zero work done, and I took Saturday to catch up on rest and have lunch with my bf. He had been working all of Friday, and is working all day today so lunch was the best we could do to spend some time together. My siblings are going about their life as normal, 2 of which live at home with my mom (16f & (35f). I got a text today saying my mom was crying because she’s feeling lonely and she thought I’d be over to visit over the weekend. I instantly feel guilt and try to explain that Friday was not as productive as it should have been, so I am finishing up some work today to make up. I have a shit ton of obligations even outside of work & school full time, so I just don’t think it’s fair to speak as if I am choosing to spend time elsewhere or with other people when I’m literally working. Knowing my mom, she most likely is thinking that I chose to spend the weekend with my boyfriend instead of spending time with her and I don’t know if I should even bother correcting that.

Tl:dr: mom is sick, came to visit and spent 1/2 weekend days with her, mom thinks I am choosing to spend time with bf rather than with her although I am working.