I’m 26F and he’s 30M. Been in a relationship for a little over a year.

Overall we really have an amazing relationship and we both complement each other well. We normally have strong communication but I have trauma from past relationships that I am noticing gets triggered at small things.

I’m in therapy, before anyone says anything, and I am highly self aware. I recognize I am draining him sometimes because I cannot seem to handle my own emotions and I’m sick of it. But I take any little conflict and turn it into, “he’ll leave you, so you need to protest” and it just makes thinks worse. I also tend to read into his body language to the point where it really makes no sense. I can’t expect him to be perfect or happy or silly or anything 24/7.

I’m ready to change and grow and just feel better so I can be supportive for him. Any advice would help. ❤️

TL;DR - I am noticing that it is hard for me to manage my reactions and my emotions when little things go wrong or off on my relationship. I am aware of this, working on myself, but also need some encouragement to get through this and show up for my boyfriend the best I can.