I had just recently met up with my girlfriend after an extended period of time being separated with all this COVID 19 stuff happening. It was for a several days and I got the feeling that we were going to have some fun. So, I had saved myself for her like couple of weeks prior.

We had both been working very hard and had numerous days off together tho. So, sex wasn't even the first thing on my mind for the first couple of days. However, eventually after a nice day of bbqing and doing things together I got antsy throughout the day and at night attempted to see if she was in the mood as well. She said no...

And emphasized no for the rest of the visit.

I am divorced and during the end of my marriage my ex-wife had also declined sex and did so regularly (because she was getting it from somewhere else). So, being told "no" isn't a problem for me. I understood, and even suspected she might have had personal issues or her period.

So, we went bed that night.

The next morning though, she got up before me to start breakfast... and I happily took care of my "personal" business. I figured that being all hot and all over her was not wanted.

The next couple of days we enjoyed our company, until the last morning. I don't remember how but, we started talking about sex and I casually mentioned I masturbated after she said "no" for the entire visit. She got quiet and started progressively asking aggressive probing questions like "if I thought of her," "what (porn) I used to get off," and etc...

Eventually, she was angry at me. So, I cut her off and asked her why does it matter what I do with my own body and how I don't pressure her when it comes to sex. How could she?

We somehow got into some kind of conversation about massages and the next thing I knew she was asking me to go down on her (she's almost never initiates). I did. We had sex and it was obviously fun.

But, I'm confused on how she got upset about this but, was so willing after she told me "no." I see questions about some people having issues with masturbation. But, it's it normal to have issues with masturbation when one declines sex?

Is this not controlling?

TLDR: GF said no to sex. I jerked it instead. She got mad and had sex after finding out. Is this normal?