TL;DR: went on one date with a guy yesterday that treated me with respect, was sweet and straightforward hes not coming to me as a friend. And now I dont know how to act or do next because Im used to connecting through sexual feelings, and just going straight to dating because its always someone I already know, or im too turned on by them, never someone totally new like this man! I want to take it easy!

So the title is my problem! Im used to really liking someone and just jumping right into it and date. Now Im doing things differently, had a tinder date and took it fast but slow (met a guy that fitted how I wanted to go about it). But this is the easy part, because hookups are easy and short.

But then I (F,21) went on a date (first I thought about it as a friendly encounter... But when he said "yeah, I want to spend more time with you" when asked to see a movie at my house, and later told me "but im not a friend" when I said that we split the bills for pizza with my friends in response to him saying "nah its on me, why do you want to split it?". Thats when I knew he didnt want me to see him as a friend lol!) With this REALLY sweet and respectful guy around my age (lmao hes almost 21 and im almost 22) And everything flowed so smooth Im still kind of processing it was real. The conversation just happened, I think a lot of what to say but with him I kind of let it come out of my mouth and boom we were having a great time, he picked me up on his motorcycle, we went to stare at the sky, I made him laugh a lot and showed him my rookie knowledge about the nightsky to amaze him! It was fun and... Kinda romantic, brb blushing before continuing.

Now... Back: Im nervous because I tend to bond over sexual stuff so this is SO out of my zone I dont know how to react! (Like seeing my beauty if I can turn them on, and feeling connected to them if they make me feel hot and turn me on) but I feel different now, Im flattered and happy when Im around him, we only met ONE TIME and Im starting to fear moving too fast or being too weird around things because Im in new territory connecting with humans.

Im hyped about where this is going, hes pretty straight forward too. He said he liked me (this was in spanish so it wasnt "like" as in "attracted"), and to hang out some time again, I said "yeah sure I liked u too" and he fricking told me "then dont make plans for the weekend" and Im screeching now and Im starting to feel the self doubt moving inside because Im nervous!! Things like "AA WHAT SHOULD I SAY I WANT TO LOOK COOL AF and impress himmmm" but I kind of know I was too much of myself yesterday and he LIKED THAT so I shouldnt worry but I do worry. Haha omg.

How can I chill out and enjoy some emotional connection with a guy while I get to know him?? How do I feel comfy now that a guy actually cares about my boundaries??

(A note on this is that tinder date was actually super nice around my boundaries, I first felt him sketchy but he was nice, and I felt weirded out by a guy treating me decently during casual sex. I mean I didnt felt as close as respected and taken care of like with this Cool Bike Guy, but I think its worth mentioning Im a little too used to things not working out nicely)