I (20 F) am in this circumstance with someone (21 M) and was wondering how things turned out for others in the same position I have found myself in. In this sort of scenario, I mean someone that you share an expressed mutual attraction with where the only thing holding you back from being together is the fact that the other person was genuinely focused on working on themselves and didn’t want to get involved with anyone at that point in time. If you did choose to remain open to the idea of being with that person in the future if and when things changed, how did all of that play out for you? And while you weren’t with them, what made it easier to be patient and not unintentionally put pressure on that person? In the meantime, did you go on dates with other people?

TL;DR I have feelings for someone and the feel the same way about me. However, they’re focused on working on themself at the moment and does not want to get involved with anyone right now. I know that I’m not the only person to have been in this situation before and I’m curious to hear about others’ experiences regarding this kind of thing.