Backstory: My wife and I were met and were married in a church (Christian) setting that we were very involved with at the time. We are no longer deeply involved in a church nor very religious, but that is where we met and we are both very different people than that time. We only dated about 9 months before marrying.

We have an amazing 3 year old son together and we both agree that the other is a great parent. I believe our son has been the biggest thing keeping us together through our very tumultuous relationship. There's never been any abuse between us, and from the outside, we look like were the perfect family. We're both "normal" and don't have any major issues.

But we are complete opposites! She is an introvert to the max and I am an extrovert. I'm dying for more friends in our relationship, and though we've talked about it a LOT, she hasn't ever made any efforts to spend much time with other people. I have my own friends, but I really want her to be a part of a somewhat active social life too. Not to mention that our interests our opposite as well. I'm very active, outdoorsy, social and motivated, while she is the opposite of those.

Financially, we're both a bit sloppy, but objectively, she is more so, and that makes it really hard for me to try to get our financial life in order. I think a lot of this comes from our age difference and maturity level, as I have been on my own since 17 and she has never been fully on her own prior to our marriage.

I feel so terrible. I hate that I'm hurting her, because she knows that I've pretty much lost interest at this point, and can't help it. I think it's just who she is. We've seen some really great counselors and have been fighting hard for the last 2 years to keep the fire alive, but I'm tired, and honestly think that she would be happier without me as well. I stress her out. I get mad at the state of our lives and relationship and she just can't shake the damn silver lining. I'm just so weary and emotionally beat down that I really think it would be best for us to go our separate ways and still raise our son together and live our own lives.

I'm certain that we would not have a messy divorce, and even think about doing things together with our son (down the road) together. Reddit, HELP!

tl;dr: My wife and I are opposites, and marriage counseling and dedication is not getting us anywhere. Should we split?