My (24f) mother (56f) passed away on December 30th. It was very VERY sudden. She and I were very close, especially after my father passed when I was ten years old.

My mom's ex (56m) started dating my mother when I was 13. They were dating a few years, and she broke up with him multiple times due to circumstances (ex, caught him with son's mom, saw him get close with male friend, etc). One of these instances was that he physically abused my mom. That is when I lost all types of respect for the man. Every time he and I would be in the same room, I would immediately leave cause I couldn't stand him. My mom was a strong person and a tough cookie so I knew she was ok to be in the same room.

The past two years, my mom has used him around the house for handiwork and her self employed business. However, they were never "official" anymore. He was just her "employee". In fact, my mom wrote him off weeks before she passed because she got tired of his bull.

So when she passed away, he all of a sudden acted like a "father figure" to me, saying stuff like "i really loved your mom" and "if you need anything i will be there". With me, i wouldn't care if i EVER saw him again. Her funeral is Saturday and he said he wants to "show up in his military uniform (from the 80's) in honor of her"

I don't know how to get this leech of a man out of my life. Any advice would be appreciated!

Tl;dr: my deceased moms ex won't leave me alone after being a "fantastic" figure in my life for the past 10 years. I want him to GTFO of my life.