Hi all,

I recently split up with my girlfriend. It was a short term thing. But this is what has been bothering me and I might as well start from the top.

We met a year ago, and my girlfriend was chasing me for a relationship. Or maybe it was a physical thing. Initially due to age difference and the fact that she was studying her masters, I said we should not go down this path. I am not someone who uses and abuses.

She took the news pretty well but we stayed in touch whilst we saw other people. I realised we had a lot in common and we felt comfortable in each other's presence - we became really good friends.

During our friendship, she always initiated the conversation. We open and honest in our conversations. We even told each other how our dates are going so badly and wished we could find someone that we like sooner.

Eventually we met up again, but this time by chance at an event. I thought to myself, I might as well explore the next step with her. And by our conversation at the event, I knew she liked me. And she grew on me.

I then asked her to join me as my plus one at my friend's wedding. We had a blast. I also made the move and things were going great. We even spent the night together.

The day after the wedding, we spent some time at the beach. Again,we had a great time. I never felt so relaxed with a girl.

Afterwards, we mutually decided to take things slow. But this is when things got awkward.

She started to get distance. I wasn't texting her or calling her everyday. We were both busy, but I noticed she had a change of tone.

I found out that she had commitment issues, due to past experiences - she had a bad break up a couple years back.

The thing is, I know it is not my right to change her mind. For something like that, it is down to her to be able to move on from her past. It's wrong for me to persuade her or manipulate her to carry on seeing me when there is issue hanging over us.

I told her that we should keep our distance for the time being. I even said her previous experiences with her ex and commitment issue is something that she should be done by her own.

I don't think it is right for me to help her get over something like that. A relationship should not be based on that.

tl;dr: Have I done the right thing?