Let me first say that I think this is the best subreddit in which to post this question. There is an actual somnophilia subreddit, but it's private, and I would only use it once for this question. There's also a "sleepsex" subreddit, but it's empty. So I'm hoping I made the right choice.

So I met a guy a few days ago, and things were going well. He seems genuine and kind and an overall good person.

Then I started noticing something strange. He kept asking me how I was laying in bed. He wanted as many details as possible. How my legs were positioned, if my knees were bent, if I was pressed into the bed, if I was on my side or not, if I was in bed yet or not, where the pillow was, etc. He also asked me the standard "what do your pajamas look like" questions, but they seemed to be more than just your garden variety perversion. He just seemed to want every detail concerning my sleeping positions. Very weird.

So I did some research, and the closest thing I could find was something called somnophilia, which is when you become aroused via sexual contact with a sleeping or unconscious person.

So after some discussion, he admitted that the "sleeping positions" thing has been an interest of his since he was a kid. He swore that it was not about being unconscious, and that he would never do that. It's apparently more about the sleeping positions themselves. He doesn't press me for information about intimacy while asleep, unconscious, or passed out. Just the sleeping positions. I asked him if he became aroused from having sex with sleeping or unconscious women, and he said, "No not at all." The he said, "Would you be willing to do that if I was like that?" I said no, and he dropped it immediately and said nothing more about it. He just went right back to the whole sleeping positions thing.

So, I feel like, if (big if!) I'm going to give my time to this person, I need to know if this is a harmless quirk or if he likes to push the boundaries of consent. I'm not justifying his behavior or defending him, but I want to figure all of this out before I make a choice. I also want to know why anyone would want to know so much about how I sleep. What is that about!?

TL;DR: Brand new guy might be into somnophilia or something else like it.