I'm 28 a year old male. I've been engaged to a wonderful sweetheart of a woman (27F) for a year and a half; we've been dating for 3 years total. She's beautiful, she's smart, we have the same sensibilities. We just bought a house together and will be married this year.

At first I didn't think that the sex was that important; at least we were having it right? Well time has gone on and the sex is as boring as ever. She won't do anything remotely sexy. No lingerie, head lasts for just long enough for me to start really enjoying it and then it's over. Sexts? please. Photos? yeah right. She won't even let me go down on her, and I can count on one hand the number of times I've even fingered her.

I've tried talking to her about it on multiple occasions and it gets me nowhere. Now I look on reddit Gone Wild and I'm amazed at how many sexually open women are there more than willing to show off their bodies. I get so turned on and I just wish so much that my girl would do anything like that (not online just in general).

I'm at the point where I'm actually considering cheating and I know it's wrong and I know that it would really hurt her if she found out; but I can't get my needs met and I only have so much time before I'm old and undesirable. If I'm going to get with a young hottie that's got the sexiness I'm missing it's basically now or never, but I know I risk losing it all and being miserable forever.

I've dated a lot of women and honestly my fiancee is perfect in almost every way besides the sex aspect of it. If I cheat on her and we break up I feel like it will be the last time I meet someone as (almost) perfect as her and I'll be alone forever just because of a stupid and selfish decision; but at the same time I'm feeling so unfulfilled.

TL:DR?

My Fiancee (27F) is not sexy at all although she is almost perfect in every other way. I'm (28M) unfulfilled sexually but think that cheating could result in complete disaster that would destroy all of my other goals/dreams all because of this selfish desire.