Although I've got a lot of super people on my life atm... Reddit always seems to help that little bit.

So I (23f) just broke up with a boy (20m) I thought was my soulmate (or even twin flame of you're aware of such things). He ended it just before going away to Australia for for months -I'm in UK. Multiple reasons, but basically he had me believing that it wasn't because he was leaving, it was that he thought he couldn't love me because of character traits that I thought were things I could work on and change for him - make myself a better person...

There were a few other reasons too, but all things I could kind of accept... But wasn't really admitting to myself out was over...

Anyway, so Sunday I sent this really nicely worded email about how I'd give him what he needed-space, time, etc... and cut down contact. But then I made the mistake of checking his still logged in Facebook...

Over the past two days, despite feeling guilty (I know I was in the wrong, please don't go on to much about that part)... I've felt just hurt and deceived... Lied to..

One message to a friend said "left her for a girl in Oz" "she broke my heart" (the other girl)... I'd emailed asking if she (H) had anything to do with him breaking up with me (I knew H already as his friend) and he said "I gave you my reasons. I hope I don't need to say them again"... But then say another message that he'd slept with her, but she'd got weird coz of some other guy, leaving him hurt...

I just feel like he should of told me beforehand that she was part of the reason-clearly she must of been since he went out of his way to see her (me originally thinking coz they were good friends)... I'm angry, and hurt, and have a whole new perspective on our amazing four and a half months together.

I know I've brought this upon myself from snooping, but would it have been better to be blissfully ignorant to his true character?

How can guys do that so easily? Be making love to me one Friday, then someone else within a week...

tl;dr: Thought could accept his reasons for breaking up, and was ready to give him his "space to fly" and try and change to be a better person for him, but have discovered that it was also for a girl and he never told me then went with her within a week - which I discovered by snooping fb :S. Feeling sad, angry, confused and guilty.