My (22m) gf(22f) who we will call F and i have been together for 7 years during this time we have grown from clueless teenagers to young adults and she has been apart of almost every major milestone in my life. We made eachother feel love at a time where we both desperately needed it and I believe we made eachother better plp for a long time.

But now after 3 years of living together things dont feel so perfect. We argue often over things like our slowly declining sex life, me being upset too often, her not caring much ab anything outside of tiktok, and other things.

I used to look at her and see the most beautiful funny kind and smart person i knew. And from time to time i still do but the other half of the time i see someone who doesnt want to build with me and just wants to follow along. I’ll give examples.

Six days ago we were both off ( she had the previous two days off at hpme), and she wouldnt get out of bed till 2 said she just wanted to chill till 5 asked to eat out at the same restaurant we always go to instead of cook like we planned ignored or didnt notice me trying to be flirty and then watched her show for the rest of the night till 10 when she half heartly asked for sex after i asked what i was doing wrong all day for her to not want anything to do with me after not having time together for almost a week. Put no effort into sex, i then tried starting a convo ab her favorite game which she ignored aside from yeahs and sures, then said she wanted to sleep at 11.

Four days ago we both got off work and came home to our apartment, we played games, watched movies, drank a lil, she talked ab her job, she initiated sex, and fell asleep cuddling. I felt like I was so in love

Then last night i came home from a 2.5 day trip where she wouldnt really talk to me unless it was ab hpw upset at some random thing she was, ignored me tring to talk ab plans for next weekend, gave a literal okay, nice, or whatever to me tring to be flirty or funny or helpful with her problems. She asked me to be more spontaneous and flirty last time we talked ab our declining sex life and so i tried sending a sexy pic. I spent ab 10 minutes finding her favorite underwear and the perfect angle and lighting. Sent the photo and she replied with “nice” and a pic of her forehead i asked if she could be up when i got home at 10 since she didnt wake up till 11 and she said yes then fell asleep at 9 in bed woth the covers on in her pjs. Then said she didnt mean to.

And no im not saying i fell out of love over two bad nights but this is how it always is. I get fed up with her not caring and then she shows me all the affection i could ask for for a few days then goes back to how she was before i complained. I feel that love on occasion and maybe it’s ignorance but i want to feel like that most of the time not just once every week or two. Its been like this for a long time now and while i love her and things are great as long as i dont overthink things or try to change things i cant help but feel like she isn’t the one anymore. I kkow she loves me and i love her but i cant tell if i love her as my future wife anymore. When i see her i no longer see the person i cant live without. I love and care ab her yes but i can also imagine a life without her in it going forward. Two years ago i couldnt say that.

To be direct my question to you all is this. Is this just what a long relationship turns into or do i need to end things and see if i can move forward alone. Also have you ever felt like you were slowly falling out of love with a person while they still love you and how did u handle that.

Ps. Im aware this is long and most likely not an easy read, my apologies i just needed to get that out of my system and anonymously on the internet seemed like the best option atm.

Tldr: Im unsure ab my relationship of 7 years buts since its all ive even know im unsure if this is a rough patch or if im losing feelings for her.