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Am I potentially ruining my relationship?
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F(30) M(38) I am dating a very amazing man. Best relationship I have ever had. He makes me so happy and we are such a good fit for each other and share so many hobbies and interests. A few weeks ago, I asked my boyfriend if he would be interested in dating other people. I told him the relationship would only be open one way. Which means he is free to date other women but I will not be dating other people. The idea of him dating other people kind of excites me. He asked if I was really sure about it and I said yes. He was excited about it and we created a dating profile for him together and swiped on girls together. Now he has a few dates lined up and I am a bit worried I might be ruining my relationship?

My fears are

  1. We have only been dating 5 months. I do love him and I have said it a few times to him. He did say he isn’t there yet as it takes him longer and he would let me know when he is in love with me but that he is 100% committed to our relationship.
  2. I love that he is excited about the idea and his excitement makes me happy. But I can’t help but wonder if it’s a pointer that our relationship has issues (I can’t think of any. We have so much fun together). I personally do not want to date anybody else. I have no interest in any man but him and the thought of me dating anyone else makes my skin crawl.
  3. He said he has no intention of having an emotional relationship with anyone else but me. So it’s going to be mostly just sex with the other partner. But I’m not sure if that’s entirely possible since he’s not in love with me.
  4. My therapist wonders if I am subconsciously opening the relationship because I am afraid I will lose him. I said no because he has been nothing but dedicated and committed to me.

What are your suggestions to make this work without potentially hurting my relationship?

TLDR; I opened my relationship up one way and I am worried about it.

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