I’m (24m) considering breaking up with my GF (24FM) of 4 years.

We have had so many great memories together up until this point. We share many common interests, hobbies, beliefs and values. However, have had many fights and issues. The thing about these is it is ALWAYS because something I (apparently) did or didn’t do. When I say always, I mean always. I have NEVER started a fight or brought something up about me being not satisfied, or unhappy. Why? Because I an extremely calm, mellow, level headed kind of guy. I do not like conflict, I do not like drama, and I am very much a go with the flow kind of guy. Her on the other hand, is always picking me apart. Ever since day one, it’s something I’m wearing she doesn’t like, something I’m doing she doesn’t like, simple things make her frustrated and mad with me like being tired and wanting to go to bed early (I work a very physical manual labor job all day, everyday) or forgetting to shave a day or two longer than I should have, or something I’m wearing she thinks is not a good look therefore she gets mad. She has a bad attitude the majority of the time, and always has an issue keeping friends, and has hardly but one, and always has an issue with people around her. I am always there for her, lifting her up, buying her everything, encouraging her, and helping her daily.

This cycle has at this point affected our sex life. How? Because of how constant she is Irritated with me, and mad at me it makes me lose any bit of attraction I have for her and my sex drive for her has plummeted. I do not want to have sex with her anymore, and she gets irritated with me for not wanting to have sex a lot but I don’t want to because I’m not attracted to her because of how she treats me. She says she is treating me this way because of how I handle our sex life. Cycle repeats. Maybe I’m wrong for how I am showing up? All I know is I am exhausted. I’m tired of being picked apart and verbally abused. I’m tired of always being the one who did something wrong or being made to feel bad for being tired. I just want a more easy going relationship. I understand there will be fights and arguments with love, but I feel like the way I am being treated is unfair. Yes I’ve spoken to her about this, but all she does is shut down and not speak to me for a day or two because she is upset. Then I’m the one to apologize and to re open her back up. Again, I hate these feelings of constant tension. Im a very hard working guy, I have a passion for my work and I want to provide for a family one day, I just don’t want this tension anymore. We have spoken about mirrage many time. Family & kids. I just don’t want to be raising kids around a tense household. A breakup would be horrible for her. She has had many sad experiences in her life, and I hate to add to it when I do care so much about this girl.

I’m just not happy and I don’t know what to do. I don’t have many friends so don’t speak about this to anyone so I might be ranting at this point. I guess I am asking for advice on how to cut this off and if you agree with my decision?

TL;DR Girlfriend always has something to say about me, and I’m so tired of it. Not sure how to approach this breakup and if it’s the right choice or not.