Being fairly new to Reddit this forum seems to mostly offer some genuine advice and so I thought I’d try.

I have been married for nearly 25 years and I would say we are happy. I love my wife very much and we have one amazing daughter and feel very lucky.

I have always known that my wife does not like to be intimate, we never kissed or cuddled a lot and sex was not frequent. It has now been 15 years since we had sex, we don’t kiss and while there are some cuddles (which are great!) they are not often.

We have discussed a few times. I do like sex, it is not the most important thing in the world but it is fun and I think can help create a closeness and intimacy with people. As the years have gone on I find it hard to imagine never experiencing that again. My wife though is happy, she loves us being friends, doesn’t miss the intimacy and would like things to stay as they are.

She does though worry that I will cheat (I haven’t) and this does cause her some stress. She got very upset the last time and so I agreed not to mention again.

if we cannot work it through, I can only see thee options: 1. We could separate but I do love her and can’t imagine us not being together 2. I could have an affair but I hate the idea of lying and so would just make this worse 3. I can just use the internet (she is happy with that) as needed, I do still feel some guilt but at least am not lying

None of them seem great to me so would love any advice!

TlDr - Happy but not physical marriage, advice on how to hope enjoy both!