Borrowing a friends account to share my story:

As an additional explanation, I found this article online at yung problem ni writer is very similar to mine: https://www.bustle.com/wellness/i-ask-him-questions-but-he-doesnt-ask-me-any-on-dates

The text of the problem is this:

"I’ve been on a few dates recently with a guy who’s knowledgeable and opinionated about a whole range of subjects, and shares a lot about his work life, his upbringing, and his friends. All good stuff! I enjoy our conversations. But I’m realizing that unless I interject with relevant thoughts or stories from my own life, the conversation is pretty one-sided. He’ll ask me one follow-up question and then move on. The thing is, I have met so many guys like this, and so have my friends. I know I could do more to speak up, I could ask fewer questions, and I recognize that people sometimes get nervous and just ramble. I’ve tried to address this in different ways over the years: jumping in with the wildest stories I have to grab their attention, not filling the silence and waiting for them to break it, and even point-blank asking “So, is there anything you want to know about me?” I like listening, but this pattern gets boring. It also just sucks to feel like you’re more interested in learning about your date than your date is interested in learning about you. What’s going on here? What should I be doing?"

This written up here is a problem by a stranger na similar ng problem ko ngayon.

For additional and more personal context:

He's my crush for sometime now and I mustered the courage to ask him out on a date, I was surprised that said yes, and we went on for four more dates.

I like him a lot and on our second date, I politely asked if we could be exclusive (in dating palang) since Im really into him. During the time when I asked him out on a date, I've been to a few not-so-serious and on-and-off dates with a few guys, so when he agreed to be exclusive, I politely dropped it with the others I'm talking to (and they were fine with it)

Like I said earlier, we've been to a couple of dates now and this is what I have observed so far within our two months of talking:

• During meet-ups, he tend to talk and share things more than me, which I appreciate by the way, and I also talk in the same energy as him. I also find him much more sweet in person, than in text.
• In a normal day, when we are just texting, I tend to be the one who asks him how was his day and 6/10 of the time recently, he's not asking it in return. Since ayoko mag cause ng fuss, I shrugged it off since I also dont want to be clingy. sometimes, he will respond with a one-sided reply for example:
  • Me:"Hi, kumusta work?"
  • Him: "Okay naman, kapagod, dami client meetings"
  • Me: *care reacts*
  • *After 30mins or so, he'll message me "Have you read this book?" etc etc

To boil it down, I want this thing with him to work, and I want to be mature so I try not to overthink. Ayoko isipin na he's not really interested since there are good amount of time na he's sweet and engaging. Natatakot lang siguro ako na baka he's already fading and losing interest. I know na baka i-advice nyo to talk to him, Im planning to pero in person, so that I could grasp din if he's attitude sa personal is same na din sa chat/texts.

Been trying to research similar threads here, and many find it(including me) as a red flag for someone na hindi lagi nagtatanong sayo in return. These past few days I feel like I've been carrying the conversation by myself. While I don't want to be clingy, sometimes, I just like/heart/care react his replies pag very one sided.

Additional info:

He's really handsome. I'm handsome too, pero mas gwapo sya tbh. And I feel like the reason I'm like this coz I dont want to ruin this thing with him. A friend of mine said na this could be just insecurity, which could be true, kasi if hindi super gwapo ka-date ko, I strongly feel di ako magkaka ganito.

I really need opinions on this guys, I feel like I shouldn't be accepting this kind of set up/treatment, I know we should find someone who gives the same energy back, at least, but looking back sa mga experiences ko with him, he tries naman and he's not totally self-absorbed.

Thank you so much guys. I feel really down kasi with work din so baka this is affecting how I should be dealing with this.