Please don’t judge me. I’ve [27F, based in Manila] always been a magnet for big groups which are usually a mix of boys and girls, and these relationships are decades old at this point. I really value friendships and treat them as good as siblings.

But we go through life changes and events, and there’s been a few incidents that a boy (or even a girl) would make moves on me. I usually shut down the girl/s because I’m straight but I’ve dated three guy friends (from different groups) who asked me out.

All three didn’t work out and I’m still devastated that they just completely shun me out. I’m chill about the whole thing because I love them as a friend and I’m always able to go back to how things were. The last time I dated a friend was 2018 at hanggang ngayon iniiwasan nya pa din ako to the point that it almost jeopardised the whole group.

Also to give context, isa [31M] lang out of three ang nag progress beyond a couple of dates and we ended things just because he’s leaving the country anyway. So akala ko ok din kami pero blinock ako after a couple of months. Yung isa [37M], crush nya ako, we hung out a lot but he was older and was too serious too quick. The last one [28M] was just a date and followed by a hookup.

There’s a part of me that do not want to give up on trying to revive the friendship pero nagmumukha na akong tanga kaka-include sa kanila sa invites pero di ako pinapansin. Hay.

Should I give up? And can guys shed light why they had reacted this way? May mali ba sakin?

TLDR Guy friends completely ditched me after trying to date/have a relationship with me. Tapon ten years of friendship just like that.