i'm using a throwaway because of how embarrassing this is.

so i went on a tinder date with a guy a couple weeks back and we hit it off really quickly. this usually never happens to me, i almost always get catfished by either short or fat men. this guy was tall, dark and handsome. he even refused to split the bill! and mind you i'm denmark aka the feminist mecca of the world, so that really surprised me.

we talked about many things, joked around and flirted. we went on another date last friday, equally good, and lastly another date yesterday. he told me he thought i was really smart and said he was tired of hookup culture (to hear those words is every girl's dream). this must be too good to be true, i thought to myself. and yup, i was right.

by the third date, i sorta felt like it was time to start splitting the bill, so i asked for his # so i could venmo him (the danish version of venmo uses your telephone number plus your real name). he refused for a while until he caved and told me he thought it was time we moved away from chatting on tinder either way.

i venmo'd him for my dinner and saw his surname pop up. when we'd finished the date, i thought i might do some light research. i didn't find much, just his thesis and some old soccer records. i click on page 2 on google, and find his twitter. no tweets. then, i proceed to look at his likes.

it's a shitshow of homophobia, racism and sexism. he's liked tweets about how gay people shouldn't be able to adopt. about how muslims in denmark need to be repatriated. he thinks our (female) prime minister needs to be jailed and charged with treason. the occasional tweet about the stock market (lol). a tweet about how muslim people in denmark use their bathtubs to bbq. (????????)

i'm speechless. i wrote this post with the intent to ask for advice, but as i'm typing this out, i know it's obvious i should dump him. anyways, i don't know if i should tell him the truth or not. it'd be really confusing for him if i just ghosted him, since we've had great chemistry, wouldn't it? at the same time, i don't really wanna have some freak ass nazi mob pounding on my door in the near future. wwyd in my situation!?