No, I do long periods of mourning after relationships. It’s meaningful and significant, he is not someone to be easily replaced.

Almost 34 and he’s turning 35. It’s a big deal at our age, at least for me

Never, gross

lol one of many things…

Mostly he hid and trickle truthed the extent he engages in a lot of numbing (eg with streamers, video games, etc). Much more came out when he was pseudo living with me recently. He’s the most loving person I’ve been with, but various things have been really turning me off and aren’t what I want in a long-term partner

Basically dissociating from life as a lifestyle. Spending hours and hours on his phone, video games, watching dumb streams, etc. Was hiding the extent of this with me

I know, and he is very sweet and fun. I’m missing him a lot already. It just wasn’t fully right as it is. Thank you, I hope so. Tbh I worry at this age that will be much harder, but I can’t stay in something my heart is not fully in, as much as I love him. Would rather be alone, and he deserves someone all-in with him.

He did let me know exes left him for similar reasons, and he was hiding the extent of how he was living/numbing out with me.

I feel really relieved about the breakup now but my health has been garbage so I feel like shit for diff reasons. Overall it was definitely the right choice. Want to get comfortable being alone for a while

This comment is just so unnecessary, I know I shouldn’t respond but it really upsets me. I was really trying, and I’ll never settle for anyone - that’s also deeply unfair to the other person. I am okay with being alone and otherwise in something that feels really right.

And idk. I don’t have to prove it to you as you don’t even know me, but my ex (weird to type that) was crying and sharing how beautiful he thought my soul was, and who I am as a person (I feel the same about him in spite of his struggles and the ways we aren’t compatible). It was really meaningful, and you trolling won’t take that away.

I know I’m sincere posting a lot, I’m in my feelings

Thank you ❤️ it feels super hard but I know it’s the right thing at this point in time, even if I don’t feel love like this again and stay single (catastrophizing a bit, hard when it’s been a really special connection, and I have a history of dating much less caring/wonderful people). It’s a huge loss, and he really deserves the best

Yeah. He has a bad case of adhd, still unmedicated and I felt like I was stepping into a parenting role a lot. I wanted to wait it out and see if things would get better with meds/therapy for him, but a lot more stuff came to light and it goes beyond all that now.

Feel quite sad though, I’ve never experienced something so loving like this before.

Thank you, I’m trying

There’s a lot of other stuff that wasn’t fully working, and I got cold feet re: moving in together

Idk if you’re being critical though, we mostly split costs