If you keep telling yourself that you'll never be in a relationship then you can probably count on that being case. Positive thinking is key here. People can smell the sad sack stink you have on you and it's not attractive. You need to start telling yourself that it's only a matter of time until you find someone. Are you a member of any groups? Church? Volunteer? Book club? Anything? There's tons of ways to meet people and cultivate relationships. You just need to put yourself out there. Have you tried craigslist? There's all sorts of activity groups, platonic friend opportunities, outings, etc. That's a good place to start. There could be people sitting around thinking the same way you are and some of them may have postings up expressing just that or something like it. Put yourself into good positions to meet people. Volunteering is an excellent idea that someone already posted. It doesn't cost anything, you'll be giving back to the community in some way, and those things usually involve other people. I feel for you and wish I could offload some of my friends to you, I would in a heartbeat if I could. Since I can't you've got to put yourself out there. You got this! Godspeed!