I'm not a terrible looking guy, I generally just try to be open and honest about who I am and what I want. Im very open about my being an introvert/reclusive and my absence from social media because. I think a lot of women probably take that as boring or think im just weird. That's perfectly okay i dont judge them for their preferences and by no means do i have any distain or ill will towards women. I dont feel entitled and I am not desparate by any means, but I would like to have a relationship again some day. Meeting people irl is really hard these days. Most people just don't want to talk to a stranger, even if it's just a casual conversation. I smile, I give compliments if I feel like it's appropriate, and I don't linger or try to force conversation, the last thing I want to do is make someone uncomfortable or be creepy. Idk maybe I really do suck more than i realize but I think its just the way people are now in the Instagram age lol.

Anyway, in my pursuit of finding a partner, I feel like I have no choice but to use these stupid apps. I hate everything about them. I hate the pay to win structure, I hate having to try so hard to be clever and unique with my first message because I'm just one of hundreds in somebody's inbox. I hate trying to form a friendship with somebody through text, let alone a meaningful romantic connection. It feels unatural to me more often than not. I hate how addicting the apps are. I hate the way they make me feel completely invisible and undesirable when I use them. There was a time when I was younger where all I could do was swipe through tinder aimlessly and couldn't understand what was wrong with me. It bothered me so deeply that I stopped using them for years. Now that I'm older I have more realistic expectations. I can use the apps responsibly and I can take rejection, but it's still hard not to feel like less of a man when some guys just constantly brag about how much tail their getting.

What I hate most of all is just seeing what it's done to other men, espicially the younger generation. I am in my late twenties, but I have a guy working for me who is a year or two younger who's never had a girlfriend and never had sex. He's spent thousands of dollars on premium dating services and gets nothing. Now this guy has some other problems that may be contributing to that, but he and thousands of other men young and old have all been sold a big fat lie. And they keep buying back into it because they feel like there's no other way. The entire business model of apps like tinder is just to take advantage of men who are lonely or desparate, or otherwise lack the skill set to attract a partner. I've only ever paid for tinder, once or twice just to see who liked me and I was only met with fake, dead, or unresponsive profiles. Oh and the occasional cashapp scammer or sex worker taking advantage of free advertising.

I recently decided to give bumble a try for the first time because a buddy of mine swears by it and i also think it's cool that women make the first move, so they don't have to have an inbox full of creeps and d pics. I set up my profile and made my bio, but my profile will only register as 90% complete because I won't connect my Instagram (because I don't use Instagram and never will again) and I can only assume that limits my visibility. Regardless, even if I'm not invisible on the app it doesn't matter because you can only use the app for all of forty five seconds before being prompted to pay outrageous amounts of money to be seen by other users. I could think of a million better ways to waste my money than give it an evil corporations that profits off the misery and loneliness of others, for little to no reward. I would sooner light my money on fire than ever pay for another dating app again and I would encourage any man reading this to do the same.

Again I don't feel desperate or entitled, I just think it's a really fucked up business and has potential to do a lot of harm to men. Years and years of feeling rejected, unwanted, and invisible could really send someone over the edge especially if theres already turmoil in their life. It lingers in the back of my mind when I'm having a bad day or not feeling very good about myself sometimes but I just wanna live my life and pursue happiness and not dwell on it.

That's it. That's my rant. Be kind to yourselves and eachother. Thankyou and goodnight 👋