marking NSFW due to the mention of sex I seriously just need to rant at this point. My bf works a shit ton. Like 40-50 hours a week at his regular job and another 20-30 on the weekends. He has hobbies he does on 2 of those days and 1 of those days he ends up working at both jobs on the same day and is up for nearly 24 hours straight. That being said, I understand he works a lot and doesn’t get a lot of free time. On the other hand, he seriously goes a week at a time between showers and expects me to sleep with him when he’s in the mood and wants to despite this fact. We went nearly a week and a half between having sex the last time because he hadn’t showered and I refused until he showered at least twice. Not twice in one day just twice in a week. Little steps ugh. He did and we had sex’s 2 days in a roll. Day 3 I play around with him a bit and he says “babe I’m trying to concentrate on my game, and you just got some 2 days in a roll”. background we usually only have sex once a week, but more often than not it’s over a week between us having sex. The month before I refused for a week and a half it was weekly on the same day for 5 weeks. Currently, he took a shower last Friday (1 week ago) and told me 2 days ago he was going to shower. He didn’t. Yesterday he said he would take a shower, I even set out a towel for him, still didn’t shower. Lastnight I didn’t say anything because he had a hair appointment today and he usually showers after his hair appointment to get the loose hair off, nope. Around 11pm-midnight I said something about “your not taking a shower tonight I guess?” Because he had been playing his games and stuff for the last few hours and finally climbed up in bed to watch tv. His response was “I’m just laying down baby, I’m not going to sleep yet”. Next thing I know he’s snoring and I’m just pissed.
His hygiene has seriously slipped and me saying something doesn’t do anything anymore. I feel more like his mother than anything at this point. He doesn’t hardly have sex with me, doesn’t entertain when I’m interested/in the mood but if he is then we have to. He doesn’t shower except the once a week and by then I don’t even want to have sex because he smells so bad. Our room smells terrible 90% of the time because of his work shoes and socks. He doesn’t change them between his showers that I’ve noticed. They’re literally hard to the touch by time I get to wash them in the laundry.

I’m in therapy and she’s suggested he may be dealing with some depression but he refuses to talk to anyone, even me. He keeps everything in and hardly opens up.

It’s coming to the point idk if I can seriously deal with it anymore. There’s so many reasons that I stay (ik this will be brought up). No we’re not married and I have considered moving out when taxes come in this year. I’ve got children from when I was married previously and they are apart of why I can’t leave just yet.

I’ve seriously just been needing to type all this out and do something with it since I haven’t had therapy in the last 3 weeks from holidays to her having an emergency. Idk what to do and I’m just stressed.

It makes him feel like shit if I say anything about shit that upsets me between us or he flips it so “he’s the bad guy and he’s the problem”.

I’m tired, I’m stressed and I just don’t feel happy right now and I don’t feel right feeling this way.