My boyfriend and I rent a house together. Before I moved in, his dad lived with him and they rented the house together. A couple months before I moved in, things started getting serious between my boyfriend’s dad (we’ll call him Jim) and his girlfriend. So he spent most nights at her house and he eventually made a plan to move in with his girlfriend shortly before I moved in. That way I wouldn’t be sharing a house with my boyfriend and his dad. Cause that’s fucking weird.

Things got messy with the girlfriend and Jim just texts my boyfriend one day saying things fell through and he’ll be moving back in with us. Jim has my phone number. Jim did not text me. I was just told by my boyfriend that he’d be back. I was extremely irritated that Jim did not think to include me in the conversation. Plus I am very sensitive about my space and I don’t like sudden change in my home environment. Jim goes to bed at 7pm every day. I like to write music and cook around this time. But I can’t because it’s too loud.

After a few weeks Jim all the sudden texts my boyfriend and says things are fine with his girlfriend and he’ll be moving back in with her. I was once again pissed off that Jim has the ability to text me this information as well, but he did not.

So Jim moves out, I’m happy again because I feel comfortable in my space. It’s been about a month. Yesterday, Jim texts my boyfriend saying he’ll be moving back in again because his girlfriend is making him sleep in the garage and it’s getting a bit cold for that. Boyfriend breaks this news to me literally right as I’m lying down to go to bed. I have a panic attack because Jim makes me very uncomfortable due to a previous event where he came into my bedroom while I was sleeping naked and pulled the covers off of me. Wish I could explain that story too but that’s just a whole other can of worms. Long story short, Jim makes me extremely uncomfortable so that’s why I had a panic attack.

I tell my boyfriend that Jim makes me really uncomfortable because of this event and my boyfriend says okay you deserve to feel safe and comfortable around the people you live with and come December we can kick him out. But I don’t want to wait until December. I want Jim to act like the adult he is and find somewhere else to just randomly show up. I don’t understand what makes him think this behavior is okay.

I don’t like Jim and up until this point my method has just been to avoid him because I feel so much anger toward him and I don’t want to snap and say something I might regret. But this last stunt has pushed my past my breaking point and the only thing I want to do is just be brutally honest with him and tell him that he makes me uncomfortable and him doing this is unethical and inappropriate. I’m afraid I won’t be able to restrain these thoughts, but at the same time I think it’s about time someone gave him a wake up call. Rant over. So excited to live with Jim again!