Hi! I live with my single mother who divorced after my father cheated (relevant?) I have been dating my girlfriend for over a year already but it's only recently that my mother found out that it was a lesbian relationship.

My girlfriend is trans, but only started transitioning this year, and met me while presenting male. We didn't tell my mother about this shift and she just kept presenting male around my mother, who didn't really seem to notice or care about what was happening, until my mom saw my gf in a dress on TikTok. She then freaked out and (she doesn't know my gf is trans) is convinced that my gf is a confused man who will eventually come out as trans and leave me for a man.

It's worth nothing we are in a culture that has very bad LGBT representation and my mother cannot comprehend the idea of a trans lesbian. Trans people are common and tolerated in my country but the assumption is that they're all straight, and the purpose of transition is to attract the desired sex by "becoming the opposite"

After finally figuring it out that my gf is a trans woman, it's getting so much worse:

• "later on when he realizes he wants to be a woman she'll just go after men so you're alone"
• "you will never be satisfied with another woman, you are straight because you had a boyfriend before" (to her bi people are just confused)
• "i don't want you to be shamed by him making a mockery out of you, you are delusional and blinded by love if you think you'll be happy dating a woman"
• "you're always so kind and understanding you shouldn't compromise in love, you need a strong man to protect you since you grew up without a father"
• "that's not okay, God will punish you"

Every night I get monologues that reach into the early hours of the morning. When I wake up I get bombarded with texts from her.

"i'm so pissed off xingsora every morning when I wake up i feel like i'm being shit on, you never gave me problems in high school and college and i was looking forward to you

While you're with GF i'm angry at your relationship, it's so wrong dating a f (gay person slur) that only started acting like one when he became your boyfriend. then he'll only tell you when you love him, please have pity on me. don't be in denial simply because you love that person.

I'm getting old and here you are giving me problems. Give me her moms number I will make it clear I don't tolerate your relationship. They should help BF. That's getting worse, coming out as trans on social media, if they knew it why did they still date you? Fuck him. The more I know the more my head bursts, you're my daughter xingsora. "

I hate that she keeps putting words into my mouth and refuses to take me at my word when I say I'm happy with this relationship. I just want to date my gf without having to justify it over and over again.

I love her though despite her being so difficult and abusive at times. Beneath all of this I see she genuinely cares and is just afraid but just how do I make her see that? I'm financially able to move out with my gf if I wanted to but I just don't have the heart to leave her alone. I don't want to run away from my problems and just give up on my mom either.