I just would love to get some advice from people who’ve been there done that.

My parents are pretty religious Christian people, dad was a youth pastor for probably close to 30 years. I was raised that way. My mother seems to have developed a lot of narc traits without realizing it under the guise of religion and my dad has apparently become tired of dealing with everything and didn’t do much by way of being on me and my siblings side generally. I’m still a bit hazy when it comes to specifics explaining all of that behavior but everything I’m experiencing as an adult is indicative of being raised by at least one narcissist :/

ANYWAY. For people who have dealt with both religious parents and narcissist parents (often both?), how do you cope with the fact that your rents won’t approve of your partners? Any of them? Because I’m not worried about them giving me permission. I’m more worried that if the time comes to get married or take big life steps with my partner (hi you little snoop), they won’t have anything to do with it (or will be involved in a negative way). And maybe the bottom line is you just let it play out and hurt for a good long time but damn if it doesn’t hurt BIG. I don’t know how to begin healing that hurt so I’m not as immobilized by the idea of that happening. I am in therapy currently so I’m already taking steps, I just would really love a perspective that is from the child of parents like this.