My Gf's mom (65), who I suspect has NPD/BPD traits, has been giving us the silent treatment after we declined letting her move in with us.

Some back story, my Gf lived with her mom till she was 30 and moved in with me 5 years ago. Upon moving, her mom has been forced to live alone. This has caused major problems since. She has made it clear she does not want to live alone. What she is not understanding is that we don't want to live with her.

She has forced the issue multiple times, everything from "ghosts" living in her house to inviting a homeless woman to live with her. My Gf has had to pay for dozens of hotel rooms for her mom over last couple years due to her issues. She's also stayed with us a ridiculous amount of times.

We have both gone above and beyond to help her come up with ideas on how to meet legit roommates or even suggest other out of state relatives. Every time she is offended and upset we don't just invite her to live with us.

Flash forward to two weeks ago. Her Nmom manufactured a reason she couldn't be alone. Gf let her stay the night. The next morning her mom was back at it again with a sob story about living alone. She put Gf on spot about moving in, to which she said no. This made her upset and she left immediately.

Since then there has been little contact. My GF gave extended her an olive branch but she didn't take it. She is acting very upset that we declined her request to live with us. Anyone else been in this situation?