You ever finally corner a narcissist into apologizing for something, only for it to be a gaslit half-apology? They'll say something like "I'm sorry IF you thought that way" basically taking zero accountability and saying it's YOUR fault you got offended, but hey sorry.

This just leads me into a little rant about a different kind of narcissists. One we don't see talked about quite as much because not many people realize how narcissistic they truly are. The "Sefl-Proclaimed Empath."

It is so ironic, as your typical narcissist is known for focusing only on their own emotions. Meanwhile this type is SO engrossed in their own emotions, they actually believe they are feeling someone else's!

Here's what a self-proclaimed empath does. They FEEL their own emotions so strongly that they proceed to project them on the people around them, then treat it like it's gospel. They will also beg you to not have boundaries, or stomp all over your boundaries then cry like they are the victim for it. This combination usually leads them to overstepping they're place in your life. They also seem to refuse to apologize for any of this.

I know I usually post about my dad, but recent events have had me starting to belive that my step-mom has these narcissistic traits as well. Well, she's always been an "empath" and always done these sort of things. She would break out crying whenever I have called her out for being rude to me or going through my belongings.

Recently my dog died and it was a very hard day. Naturally I'd call her for a little emotional support and because she loved him too. While my dog of 14 years is laying in my living room dying, she takes on a very rude, urgent and angry tone for seemingly no reason. (She could've been in a bad mood already, that much I'm human enough to let slide, because this was sudden.)

THEN, from 20 states away, she Googles veteranarians open for walk ins on Sunday. A very light surface level Google I should add. She sends me a location of a clinic, but I think it'll be easier for my dog to let him pass at home. She goes on to be like "OH YOU DONT WANT HIM TO SUFFER DO YOU?" and guilts me into driving 20 minutes away with my no longer lucid dog dying on my lap only for me to find out they don't even accept walk ins. I turn back around and he dies 15 minutes after we get home.

I text her she was not helpful, that she really hurt my feelings and sent me on a wild goose chase which made the whole day so much more stressful. Aside from mailing me a little headstone for him, she essentially ignored me until my birthday 9 days later. She didn't acknowledge anything, just said happy birthday and acted like it didn't happen.

Now months later, I basically had to DEMAND an apology from her for the whole thing. She still tried to cry like I was attacking her for wanting an apology. She also said the infamous "I'm sorry if you felt that way." when I talked about the way she spoke to me.

Rant over. AITA? because I know I'm not.