One thing that I recently realized was that the voice in my head, the one that always tries to tear me down. All my life I always heard my mom’s voice saying that. I’ve had a rough few years, two years ago my Nmom kicked me out of her house & cut me off. Getting kicked out wasn’t the rough part though I was happy to leave, what hurt was that evil look of hate when she did it, her selling my first car bc it was in her name for the insurance, & all the toxic things she continued to try and hold over my head.

I spent some time at my dad’s and last year my mom and my little sister got into a big fight (mainly bc she was the last kid my Nmom could bully) I made sure things went differently this time, I helped guilde my sister through this process, I bought her car back from my Nmom so she could drive it, & she’s living with my dad now.

I got a great new job, got my own place, and I’m considered successful. I’m LC with my mom, just enough so my extended family doesn’t cause any drama, but my mom truly has no power over me anymore, and her voice in my head has no power over me either. I’ve finally learned to love myself and it feels great. Ik it’s so hard for many of you reading this, but I sincerely hope you all learn to love yourselves like you Nparents should have, and it’s the love you deserve.