My friends, I need a post to grieve as a daughter today.

I have found a wonderful man, he loves me well. He treats me well, and we are a fantastic team. He makes me happier, stronger, and more ok with being myself than I have felt in my life. We have decided to move in together and I am OVER THE MOON.

Now, my mother lives in my upstairs apartment. I own the home. Its VERY small apartments - but with some creative thinking and smart use of space myself, my son, my SO and his FOUR kids are gonna fit. Mama is going to have to go though.

Mom and I do NOT have a good relationship. She was never meant to live up there. She just didn't pay her mortgage for like 8 yrs, they foreclosed on her house, and she sort of ended up there. It was NEVER permanent. She was supposed to be there until she found something decent. It has been nearly 4 yrs, and it makes my life hell. She constantly complains how much she hates it and everything about it.

When I told her my SO is moving in, and she needs to look for something else... BY JUNE OF 2022 (I did not spring this on her), all hell has broken loose. She is going around telling people how horrid I am for pushing her out. She has no family left. Blah, blah, blah. No big deal, I dont care what people think and if you feel this is "pushing you out" thats a you problem not a me problem.

Well this weekend she starts with me AGAIN about it. Basically, I should have just bought another house and let her live in this one. Its my job to take care of her. She can't start a business now because she doesn't trust me- please note I NEVER agreed to go into business with her nor was there any discussion about it ever. If I make her leave she is never coming back etc.

So I say I honestly have done nothing wrong here, maybe we need to go to see a family counselor because she is clearly very hurt and I do not see her side of it. Her response was "you're not worth a year of my time and dragging up 35 yrs of stuff to get this figured out."

So BASCIALLY mooching off of me, a single mom with no real money of my own to speak of, was her retirement plan. She feels she was entitled to live in my upstairs flat rent free for eternity because of "all the things she has done for me, which now what is even the POINT because I won't take care of her", I was never supposed to move on from my divorce, and she telling me if I DO chose to stay the course I will never see my parent again nor will my son see his only grandparent.

I am very clearly going to move forward with the move with my SO, even if I wasn't this woman needs to leave. She is an awful human. But I am so violently sad. As a mother my WHOLE world is making sure my son is successful and whole. My second concern is making sure I dont burden him. Not that I wouldn't love a hand if he were able and I was in trouble- but making shit decisions for 20 years because FUCK IT my kid will pick up the pieces is not the same thing.

I feel so heavy from all of this. I knew it was bad, I did not know it was THIS bad. Thanks for reading. Im just so damn sad, and I needed to tell someone.