Ugh, I usually don't post my personal stuff lately but I'm struggling. So a little history lesson about me is in due order. So I'm a 34 yr old female who in the last year has made the difficult choice to move back in with my mother (who has been an asshole my whole life) so I could re-establish my life. I'm a recovering addict and my mother is a severe alcoholic, she has no conscience I swear! She is the type of person who just loves to get her digs in to make herself feel superior...... Anyway I live here with my 11 year old daughter and I'm constantly walking on eggshells and tense inside just waiting for a situation to erupt, I will say I have made progress in the way I control the effect she has on me...... This woman lives in her bedroom! She lays in bed all day and only comes out to fill her glass, I cook, I clean, I make her fucking plate and bring it to her! She has her moments where she tells me how grateful she is I take such good care of her house, because she just can't do it anymore (her words not mine) mind you my mother is only 15 years older than me and as I already stated I 34! Anyway to get to my point, the last couple days I haven't been feeling well and she was understanding, told me not to worry about dishes ECT. So today she decides to make split pea soup and comes out of hibernation. Well I decide I want to make no bake cookies with my daughter because it's a pretty boring day, I start getting the supplies together only to be met with my mother sounding like I'm just being such a hassle to her day "ugh what are you doing? You're going to clean your mess right?" So when I stand up for myself and say "well yeah, because I never do clean do I" she responds with "well lately no you don't" why can she not help herself when it comes to making asshole comments to me that have no truth or substance, it's only meant to insult me! 3 fucking nights ago I was up til 11pm cleaning, she told me the dishes in the sink could wait and I said no they can't because the few pots and pans are, then when that was done I mopped the kitchen and living room floors, but I never clean my messes lately....... So meanwhile- while all this is going on my daughter comes out into the kitchen saying "yeah I'll make cookies with you" only to see me putting all the shit back in the cupboard....... It seems like since my treatment program has started their in person groups again and one of them is centered around ACOA's I'm really noticing how much fucked up shit I deal with here, and at the moment moving just isn't feasible...... Can you relate to any of this, and if so or if you can't and have some advice in managing please leave me something....... I feel like I'm going crazy at times, like it just blows my mind that people can carry the way they do with such nonsense......