Background: I ran away from home almost 8 years ago. There was some physical violence, but mostly an all-present psychological terror. I've slowly rebuilt myself, but they never really let go. I've asked to leave me alone often, to no avail. "But Christmas" is apparently a valid excuse for breaking explicit boundaries. So after 7 years, I went into therapy with Nmom and Edad for about a year. I really tried, but they refuse to admit any physical violence ever took place. I finally gave up and told them that I don't want ANY contact anymore, unless they are ready to really look at what went down and take responsibility for their share of what went wrong, including the violence. They were livid, of course. Accusations across the room, Nmom walked out mid-session. Yet Edad thought it was an appropriate time to try to modify my recollection of traumas for which he wasn't present, tell me I can't compromise when I refuse to just let him, and then try to _hug_ me goodbye. I'm currently in a mental ward, licking my wounds, recovering.

Safe to say, I tried as much as I could to repair and/or rebuild things, and it didn't work. I stated my boundary clear and substantiated it pretty damn well. They have a habit of contacting me for Christmas and New Year's, so when nothing came by Christmas, I thought it was done. I had some confusing feelings about it, but I knew I'd have the proper surroundings to deal with those.
The other shoe dropped on New Year's Day. An email on how, even though our last contact didn't go too well, I'll always have a warm place in their hearts and they want me to know they'll always be there for me.
A bit ironic, since they don't bother to respect the one boundary I've told them I had for about 8 years. It also makes me think they found out about my stay in the hospital (fine, then go ahead and feel guilty, I can't carry your weight any longer).

Anyways. I'm in a dilemma now. I can write back and say gtfo one last time, with the warning that should they contact me again, I will contact the police. Or I can ignore it.

Pros of reacting: I get to try to enforce my boundary, they might actually be kept in line by their wanting to always look good, outcome might be a stop to the ever-present "they might contact me right now" feeling
Cons: might escalate the situation

Pros of not reacting: No possible escalating in any form
Cons: Feeling weak, knowing they will try again and again and these tries will hurt me for days whether I read them or not, fuss over trying to eliminate ways of contacting me (which angers me bc I shouldn't have to do that work)

Please advise. I genuinely don't know what to do. I'm leaning strongly towards reacting, but I'm also scared of getting into yet another struggle for power.