A bit of back story; I'm 30 and I live with my parents. I had to come back home to get into drug treatment. My dad constantly disrespects me in small ways that he doesn't even think of, but that I certainly notice. Today, for example, I was telling him about something I watched on YouTube. This is a common thing to share between the two of us; he LIVES on YouTube. I tried to be as concise as possible to get to the point, because the story that took me to it was about youtubers he doesn't care much for. The whole story took maybe three minutes, and at the end, I stopped talking, and he continued to scroll through Facebook. He didn't look up once. It was like talking to a wall.

This evening, he got snippy with me about something, and told me that he thinks I need to explore new places to live. Knowing damned well that I live with him and not my boyfriend because medicaid where my boyfriend lives is GARBAGE. I asked him why, and he said because I need to live somewhere where I'm the head of the household. And it clicked. He's angry because I don't take him disrespecting me anymore. Because I don't let him talk down to me or yell at me without calling him out. So I replied "I need to live somewhere where people respect me?" And he, of course, replied "BULLshit." So I walked away instead of escalating.

I want to make a list of the ways that he disrespects me on a regular basis. But I'm so close to the situation that I'm having trouble really thinking things up. I know that both he and my mother are very disrespectful to me as a human being, and I know the psychology behind it; I am their offspring, I live with them for free, I don't do anything to accomplish anything in the world, so I don't deserve respect in their eyes. But I KNOW I deserve respect, regardless of their opinion.

So I thought I would reach out on the sub and ask all of you, and that some of the things that you have gone through would trigger memories of things I can add to the list. Much love to you all. <3