My parents are somewhere on the Nparent spectrum. To be honest, my dad is probably narcisstic and my mom is bipolar (unmedicated and needs it) and enabling... But also has a lot of narcisstic tendencies.

When I was younger, my parents were intent on controlling my reproductive health. My dad didn't want me on birth control despite horrific periods (turns out I have PCOS), because he thought it would send the wrong message about sexual promiscuity. Growing up, he strongly advocated for a woman's right to choose, but then as I got older, my dad started saying things like well if you got pregnant I hope you wouldn't abort the child, because it's family now.

Similarly, when I was younger, I did not want children. I was very traumatized for a whole slew of reasons, and didn't want to bring a child into the world where I felt like everything was awful and I couldn't protect them from the things that happened to me. When I started to become a teenager, my mother insisted that I have children to carry on her bloodline. That was the only reason. She explicitly said it several times. That said, she's also informed me several times that she had a kid because she needed someone to take care of her when she got old and that she never wanted children, and then when she found out I was a girl she cried for weeks because she really wanted a boy if she had to have a kid (because of the whole mama's boy trope). My mother went so far as to threaten to harvest my eggs if I refused to give her a grandchild. She looked into if she could acquire hormones and find a doctor who would harvest it. She even pleaded with me to just have a child and just give it to her to raise (which would never happen, because she's not a safe person to be around for me let alone a child).

Anyways now that I'm getting up there in age where I could start considering children in the next 5-7 years, my parents have suddenly become obsessed with me having a child to carry on their bloodline. They want grandchildren... But only on their timeline of course. And I will definitely, health and finances willing, have children one day, but my parents won't have anything to do with them.

I'm wondering how many other people have had experiences with their Nparents trying to control their reproductive health and/or just lineage by trying to convince or force their kids into having children. Is this something you would say is common?