So, I know that this is a bit of an obvious one, but I honestly want to hear how others coped/ are coping with this.

In my case, as the youngest I became the "golden child" when my sister entered her teens and began getting into trouble. It drove a grossly unhealthy relationship between us, which was only really alleviated when she moved out and was given space. Although that was recently ruined by my nmother when I walked away from her.

But a recurring problem is that I was put under this expectation that I had to do incredibly well. I became scared of telling them of my failures. When my high school ranking came back, they were furious. Especially when my university offers came. Even though that kind of panned out in the end as I came to adore what I was studying, I still can't forget the fury and anger from them that day.

But now even that I've walked away, finished my bachelor (and put myself through the hell that is the honours program), and entirely severed contact with them, the impact of those expectations are still there. I'm hyper critical of everything that I do. Everything is never good enough, I am never good enough. Where I've made some progress on this thanks to months of therapy, I still hate everything that I do. Even though my inability to ask for help was driven by a number of things, these expectations were a major component. It was to a point where it took a relapse into suicidal ideation to make me realise that I needed help.

I am keen to hear others stories about this, and how you guys have coped/ are coping. And as with anything in this sub-reddit, best of luck to everyone dealing with their Nparents.