Quick backstory. My family has issues. My mom is a class Nmom and the entire family has been NC with her for over a decade. I went NC with her a little over 2 years ago. My grandmother is also a classic narc but adores me and my cousin (who is also a narc and I think the worst in the family but that's another story for another time.) It seemed like for the longest time that my Aunt and I were the only non-narcs in the family. Then my Aunt found out that she wasn't invited to my (very small) wedding and has been ignoring me since. So my grandmother is 91 years old and last christmas was the first time you could tell. Very weak, wet sounding breathing, and a little confused. My Aunt was just awful to her so my husband and I kept her company. To be honest, if she makes it to this christmas I'll be shocked. Today my husband saw me something my aunt posted on Facebok and sent me this screenshot. I'm worried about my grandmother. I'm worried about my aunt but this post is so damn similar to the one's my Nmom would post before I finally said screw it and went NC. I want to reach out but my husband feels this will end poorly for me. I just don't know what to do. Despite all of my family's issues they are my family and I do love them and I swore that all of the nonsense of everyone hating each other would with me. I just feel...lost. I'm sorry for the rambling but I just don't know what to do.