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A little bit of context, my nMom took out student loans for my education (most of which were in my Edad's name, a few of which are in my name) with the agreement that I would pay the portion of the loans in my name and they would work out the rest- when we originally did this I was more than happy to help them pay the other portion as much as I was able, but things have changed a bit since I've gone NC and started living on my own.
I went NC about a year ago because I had decided that after college graduation I wanted to move in with my then boyfriend and my Nmom could not handle that (what she termed ultimate betrayal)- she spammed my phone with texts, phonecalls and voicemails telling me what a horrible person I was for doing this to her- and eventually I couldn't take it anymore and changed my number. I was living at school at the time, and I returned during Thanksgiving to get some of my stuff while I was staying with a relative, to find that they had changed the locks.
Anyway, I got a message this message from one of my aunts (Edad's sister) yesterday:
"Happy New Year emptyteaspoon, I have made the decision to reach out to you on behalf of your Mother and Father, Nmom and Edad (even if they have no idea I'm doing this) I am hoping that in this new year 2017, you will choose to do the proper thing and get in touch with the Student Loan company that is seeking for your Edad to start paying back your college loan. Like so many others before you, it is the right thing to do and also like many others, it will take a long time. This is time and money Edad and Nmom don't have. After your Dad lost his job he was hit with cancer and had many months of treatment. He now has a medical condition that is impairing his gait. He has a very hard time walking and couldn't get a job and is now collecting a very minimal SSN check. The loan company is now coming after them. They will not survive this hit!! I know the type of person you post about is the decent one that lives inside of you! Please start off the rest of your life starting with showing the compassion you show for others, to you mom and dad. They miss you and love you more. That's what unconditional love is! Please find it in your heart to reach out... if not to them, to paying the bill and getting it from around their necks. Please! I may be far away and we haven't seen each other in many years, but I still love you everyday! -Aunt [Name] <3"
I'm just not sure what to do about getting back into contact or not. I will probably call the student loan company and find out any information I can about it. I really do love and miss my dad (I knew he lost his job, but not about the sickness), and if he is sick, I'd like to be there for him- but not at the expense of jeopardizing the progress I've made with NC and how much that has impacted my personal health.
TL;DR after about a year of NC, got a message from Edad's sister that he is ill and in financial difficulties, should I break NC?
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