I stood up to her yesterday, said exactly what I wanted to say, called her out to her face and it felt so good! There’s been so many fucking straws but my last was her asking me to “please put your feelings aside and still do this for me, because I won’t be able to handle things if you don’t” and also, while cleaning out my closet that she has asked me to clean for months, in tears “so you’re leaving me?” After I heard both of those statements, especially the first where she is literally point blank asking me to ignore my feelings and cater to hers, I was done. It sucks because I’m only able to be stern with her every so often, usually I go into a fawn response. But yesterday something was different because I didn’t hold back and I called her out on her manipulation. I won’t go into detail but it was so satisfying to see her not know how to respond. It’s like it was clicking for her in real time that she can’t twist reality with me anymore. The one thing that really got me, is the fact that she says she can’t communicate/get through to me, it’s like her words get jumbled and I don’t understand her. In the past 25 years of my life, she has told me the opposite, that I was the only one who could understand her. Now that I’m not blindly agreeing, suddenly I have a comprehension problem. She of course texted and tried to call about 10 times after this. Trying to get the last word in. The fucking icing on the cake - she texted me that she had a great time celebrating my birthday last week and that we had a great dinner at this restaurant, and she loves going to that restaurant with me. The thing is, we didn’t even go to that fucking restaurant for my birthday 🤣 All I could do was laugh when I got that text. The fucking absurdity