So I read a recent post here about how our nparents lovebomb our own children but suddenly blame shift to us if our children “gets naughty.”

For context, most of my immediate family members are narcissistic, mostly due to my Ndad’s apathetic behavior and my Nmom’s “I’m always the victim in any situation” mentality. As kids, the “lovebombing” always had a return of investment, which is blindly obeying their will and keeping up with their mood swings.

What ticked me off was when I had my own daughter, and my Nmom started implying that I’m “unsuitable” to take care of her. Nmom pretty much criticised everything I did, even from the moment she was born. Like “how can your daughter end up in NICU for 2 weeks when none of you/your siblings and other grandkids didn’t” type of comment, instead of supporting my weakened and anxious state.

Nmom told me that she wanted my daughter to call her “mommy,” and that she technically raised her when I was at work. I asked her why, and she said, “because I feel like it.” That got me really mad, as if she’s trying to narc my daughter, too.

Am I over reacting to what she said? Keen to know your thoughts.