Because of all the verbal, physical and mental abuse you’ve endured as a kid (and for some, currently)?

My Nmom constantly body shamed me, especially when other people are around, everywhere (in the mall, on a street, sometimes within shouting distance). So I couldn’t look straight at the camera sometimes or smile as if I was a mannequin. I usually try to hide at the back when there are group photos. Even selfies are painful because they always felt forced or make me criticise every pore on my face.

Come midlife, I gained a bit of confidence when I decided to permanently move out of her house this time. Teaching my own daughter now on being confident, regardless what other people say.