I’ve been NC with my nmom for 2 ish months. Long story short, she defends my GC sibling to no end even if it’s at my expense. My thoughts … ruminations really, were becoming suicidal, and when I expressed all of this to her, the moment turned into a DARVO situation that I couldn’t emotionally tolerate/manage at the time. (I’m in therapy & okay)

Even though it’s only been 2 months or so, I am constantly told by other relatives that my nmom is “worried” about me, and wants to know where I am all the time. I never buy into it.

Lately, I’ve been getting sporadic text messages from her — which is rare. They always hold the same passive aggressive tone which I interpret as an attempt to get me to react/ DARVO me into being a villain in her (fabricated) story. Additionally, she is starting to include more and more lies in these texts than normal. She’s always been able to use super ridiculous accusations against me to get the reaction she’s looking for bc she knows my knee-jerk response is to defend myself, even if it turns into a shouting match.

Through therapy, I’ve learned to not be so reactive, and my nmom’s lying doesn’t significantly bother me anymore, mainly bc I know it’s just attention/reaction seeking that I’m above.

I’m just curious to know, specifically, whether the behaviors in line with NPD/habitual lying is a common behavior others have seen with their narcissist person.