Best not to look at my post history for this one.

Context:

Mom obviously bipolar- diagnosed when she was a kid but never treated to this day. Long story short, single mom joined the army, left recently, had PTSD and got super paranoid of me and my brother. She also has lupus and kept having flare-ups due to stress, so I thought it was better to keep my distance.

I moved out because her shit was so exhausting and will never look back in that regard. She was actually happy with the move out, though I think also lonely.

It's been about a year since I left, and I've been mostly NC, shit with my brother is making me check in with her. However, I try to avoid it otherwise.

Currently:

This past month, she got sick enough to go to the hospital and decided to let me know. After that, she has been really pushing a meet-up, which I hesitantly agree to. Decided that if I was going to do this, it would be mothers day, however she decided to cancel herself, saying she had another hospital stay recently.

She tends to cancel meeting people when she's upset or stressed out, so I'm wondering, guys:

Do I take an L and invite her out again to make sure she's doing okay, or do I just let her be?

I am trying really hard not to get wrapped up in her manipulative shit but its so hard. She only has a nurse and no real friends, which is why I don't want her to be alone emotionally, despite how much she pushes everyone away.