so my ex was are really manipulative person on top of that had depression on one of our first date she told me she was hurting herself. about 1 months later she moved away and I thought things would end there but when I ask she started to cry and said if we ever broke up she would kill herself so me being young and stupid and low-key kinda scared I said ok lets try this 2 weeks later she got on a FaceTime call and said "I love you" I didn't say it back I just said oh sry I have to go so I left about a half a month later she send me this text: "hey I know we are dating but since I live far away and we never see each other do you mind if I date other guys?" me not really caring about her say sure what ever floats your boat. about a month of speaking very on and off like once or twice she get sent away to a home for depressed kids. says she will be back in a month so I wanted to end it there because I couldn't take it any more but when she realized I was fading she apparently told her brother and her brother called me and begged me not to saying that if I did she would kill herself so I didnt want that on my conscience so I said ok finally she left 5 weeks later (she had to stay an extra week for something that went down I don’t remember what just know it was bad) she comes back but during those weeks she was away I was planning on ending it I was done no more it was killing me this whole thing I was going to break up with her no more procrastinating no more chickening out. so I went and I did it I called her up and I ended it. I was so proud to finally be done with her but about 5 months later she starts texting and saying that if I don’t tell her I love her she is going to kill herself I was so done I couldn't take it I just pretended like I never saw it. I forgot about it for about a year and a half then I got word from a mutual friend that she had been committed (put into a mental health hospital) and one of her monthly calls was to me I had the number blocked not knowing who I had block I got cruise so I answered she said she was going to kill herself if I didn't say i love you. I just snapped after that I said I hate you I don’t care if you kill yourself you selfish b*st*rd I manipulative and evil never contact me again! I admit it was pretty harsh but the amount of grief she caused me to feel was immense. she me start to feel depressed but after that I was kind of proud I finally put her behind me. well am I the a-hole or did she not deserve what she got?