I’m gonna reverse-engineer this post; so TL/DR I’m looking to build long-term. Just want someone with shared attraction, similar interests and amazing conversation/banter (soooo wildly important to me!) to spend time with and make exceedingly happy in every sense of the word (including emotional support and mutual mind-blowing orgasms on the regular, ONCE we’re to that point). That’s the short of it, if you continue on hope you’re ready to read!

I’m Nick btw, and as the title states I’m 45. White male, 6’, 185lbs and height/weight proportionate. Good-looking and happy to share pics in my initial response. When it comes to physical activity; I enjoy long walks, exploring state parks, fishing, gardening if I’m able (can’t where I rent), weights, yoga, tubing rivers, kayaking and bar games. On, in or near the water is my happy place when the weather is nice. Pretty open to new things, though I do have a strong aversion to heights, so if you’re a bungee jumper or skydiver you’ll have to settle for a cheerleader rather than a fellow partaker. ;) 

The holiday season is fast-approaching, I love Thanksgiving and Christmas. Good eats with your favorite people, decorations, a general air of happiness and kindness, heartfelt gifts to those closest to you. I really wanna match Christmas PJ’s with someone special, and there’s still ample time to lock that in this year! Probably as good a place as any to mention I’m non-religious (agnostic, I simply don’t know!)...I know many who practice religion wish to share that; I am fine either way so just being up front as to how I live. I mentioned good eats, I enjoy trying new restaurants and cuisines and am a very strong home cook. Sushi and tapas hold special places in my hea…errr, stomach haha, as do Supper Clubs and steakhouses. When it comes to MY cooking, homemade pizzas, mac n cheese, Mexican food, various veggies including amazing skillet green beans…I make killer homemade soups and love to do so for my partner when they’re ill. 

I touched on warm-weather hobbies earlier; in the winter I tend to hibernate more than anything….though I’m always open to grabbing a meal or cocktail! In the winter it’s a great time to catch up on reading (voracious reader of fiction), shows and movies, etc. I am a gamer, which is rightfully controversial in the dating realm. If it’s a shared hobby AMAZING, I’ve got all three current gen consoles and love watching a partner play (or playing together) as much as I do playing alone. Were it NOT a shared hobby, it would be permanently back-burnered, by which I mean something reserved for time apart or when we’re doing our own thing. In other words, there is NOTHING that would take priority over a committed and engaged partner, least of all a bunch of damn pixels. 

Do you have kids? If so cool, I do! I’m an empty-nester with a D23 and S18. Being Dad is the best thing I’ve done with my life, and I couldn’t be more proud of the amazing people I raised. She’s currently blazing a trail as a premium barista in Dallas (ughhhh the miles….might just be for a couple years though) and he’s going to school to be a police officer. Better cease here before I really get to gushing haha. 

Own my own vehicle, have my own place, have been in my current position for coming up on 10 years and have good credit. I am greatly open to relocation within the state should a relationship progress to that point, and being full-time work from home my career is not an impediment in the slightest. Basically my adulting is well in-hand, outside of that one special person…

I existed for far too long of my adult life in a dead marriage, so I’m something of a touch-starved mofo. Affection is important to me, non-sexual and sexual alike. I ain’t no clinger or anything hehe, physical touch is just one of my stronger love languages (along with quality time). While I’m always down for an old-fashioned lovemaking session, I do have some kinks as well. I’m a Pleasure Dom, getting you off gets me off. I tend to start slower/softer, but am experienced and open to raising things to meet your needs (and enjoy some rougher things in my own right). My last relationship was my first DD/lg, and while it’s not mandatory, it was an interesting dynamic that added a layer of spice. We can discuss preferred kinks in chat; in terms of limits mine are scat, blood, puke and involving other men…simply can’t share.

That’s most certainly enough about me, now what about YOU?!? Attraction must exist, yet it comes in myriad forms and I don’t have a type per se. Neither age nor race matter in the slightest. While I somewhat favor petite frames (easier to throw over the shoulder hehe), I also adore curves and play well with them. So long as there’s a baseline attraction, it’s the vibes and personality/banter that wins me over anyways. 

Regarding YOU, above all most of what I’ve written above holds strong appeal to you. You’re motivated by monogamy; not hatin’ on all you fine ENM/Poly types it’s just simply not for me. You adore witty banter, inside jokes and free-flowing conversation that makes time a non-entity. You’ve done enough self-work to be healed and ready to accept something amazing should it cross your path. Look forward to chatting if I’ve piqued your interest, and best of luck in your search if I’m not to your tastes.