TL:DR Cute, slim, mature, responsible, and intellectual guy seeking a petite to average size girl (18 to early 20s, possibly a little older) that wants to work together as a couple towards someday being independent (in the sense of our own business, or YouTube/Twitch channel, etc., as opposed to working for another company in a typical 9-5 or something like that). But also a girl that wants a deep, loving, romance-story-like romantic relationship with someone that genuinely wants to get to know and understand them on a deep level, spend a LOT of time together (part of the reason for seeking a lifestyle/job that allows that), as well as do all sorts of things in life together, cuddle, travel, explore, and just in general enjoy life together.

To go into some more detail, I'm looking for a girl that likes (or is at least open to a relationship with) middle aged guys, and the confidence, maturity, wisdom, etc. that comes with that. Someone that likes the mentorship-esque dichotomy of a loving, "older" middle aged man that helps teach a younger girl (but also loves to learn things from her as well), as well as make her feel safe and loved. Emotionally and romantically loved on a level that few if any boys her age can match, because they haven't waited decades for that deep, perfect connection, and know how much to appreciate it and enjoy each other's company when they do find it. Someone that can thoroughly enjoy and appreciate their partner's youth, their curiosity, their energy, their excitement to see, do, and explore new things and places, while they can enjoy the responsibility, love, wisdom, and knowledge of someone a bit older. Now, obviously in no relationship are things going to be perfect 100% of the time, and I'm not trying to claim that that will be the case here either, but I've found that things can be amazing like 99% of the time if we build a deep, trusting, understanding relationship, and have very good communication between each other. It's not about never having any disagreements, it's about knowing how important the relationship is to each of you, trying to handle disagreements in as loving a way as we can, and thoroughly enjoying all the time you get together as well as you can, with as few exceptions as you can (i.e. the disagreements). That said I approach things VERY logically and am happy to have civilized discussions about things and do my best to come to a mutual agreement to the best we can for as many things as we can. I rarely if ever have actual "arguments" and never am getting in yelling matches with anyone I've ever dated. Moving on, another thing I want to mention is, I'm looking for a girl that want to have kids someday in the relatively near future. Not looking to have kids immediately haha, I'm nervous about it too haha, but I definitely want kids before TOO long; first things first though, we need to build as deep a connection as we can between the two of us first, and make lots of great memories together! <3 Oh, and I think I should add, I want to be as helpful and responsible as I can when it comes to kids, I want to help out taking care of them, as well as get to spend a lot of time with them as well. I want us to work together as partners to take care of the kids, I'm not going to be that guy that expects his wife to always take care of everything regarding the kids.

Anyways, moving on, ideally I'd love to find a girl that just graduated HS, but that's NOT a requirement; it's fine if you did in the last couple or several years, or if you've graduated college, etc. However, you need to be not just open to a relationship, but available to be in one - i.e. if you have years left of college and live on the other side of the country, that's not going to work. Depending on location and other factors (i.e. how well we click, the possibility of relocating, etc.) I might consider someone in their last year of college (or possibly high school, as long as you're 18), particularly if you live pretty local (not more than, say, 1 to 2 hours away, hopefully a bit closer than that - or open to switching school if we click well enough, but NOT looking to rush into that). No one with massive college debt though. While I'm primarily expecting that those that fit what I'm looking for will be people that didn't or don't plan to go to college (while it is very important for some jobs, there are many things in life that you don't need college for). However, it's not that I think college is always bad (and certainly learning is good); as long as it's been in a responsible way, it's fine if you've gotten a college degree, as long as it hasn't put you deep in debt, or be something that's going to take many years or decades to pay off, or be a degree that's nearly useless (unless you had the money to get that degree without being in debt, and it was something you were interested in, even if you don't use it, etc.). It's not that I don't like college or learning, I don't like society's pressure for everyone to get one, whether they need it (or will ever use it) or not, and pressure for people to go deep into debt to get it. Also because most of the things I'd like to do (and hopefully someday together with a close romantic partner) don't require one. If we need to take some classes at some point in the future than so be it, that's fine (i.e. if we decide to start a business about something we need to learn more about).

Moving on, if you're shy, even extremely shy, as long as you have a desire (and willing to work towards it) to become more outgoing and self confident, this could be a great opportunity for you, as I used to be extremely shy when I was younger too (but over time have worked out of it). However since I've been there myself and know what it's like to be extremely shy, I can usually get along well with shy people since I can relate and understand where they're coming from, so I can usually make them feel pretty comfortable relatively quickly. Of course, if you're outgoing, that's fine too haha. :) Also, if you have strict parents [also not a requirement, but I mention it because I did], or nice parents but had a pretty sheltered life so far, but either way you want to get out from under that, and become your own person, learn to be independent, but also see and experience new things and places, this could be a great opportunity for you as well! ...although it's important to note that this isn't about helping someone that's being rebellious to get away and be irresponsible, this is about helping them to learn things and learn to be responsible, capable, and independent - which will all help them gain some self-confidence.

I'm a type of person that believes most things can be self-taught, and depending on your goals and the field you're going into, in many cases college isn't needed. Not that I dislike learning, I'm not opposed to taking classes and learning things, and I think community colleges can be a great thing, particularly for taking a class in something specific you're interested in, for example. Anyways, the point is, I'm primarily looking for someone that wants to build a career doing independent creative things together. In the long term, ideally making YouTube videos together, doing both fun things like travel blogs, theme park guides, or covering fun/interesting/helpful projects, and more helpful/informative things like pointing out challenging/problem points in society/the economy and trying to organize communities, new small businesses, etc. to help fill the market holes, bring down costs for many different things (i.e. if there's only a monopoly mega-conglomerate controlling a market and massively overcharging). In all those points I think our age gap could be a HUGE positive in that we could have discussions pointing out views, experiences, and expertises of two different generations. In the meantime though, since it takes a while to build up a YouTube channel to a point it makes any significant money, I think doing things like Twitch, or selling art/creative types of things, or other things (I'm certainly open to ideas, and would welcome your input, it's important that we find something we both at least somewhat enjoy). Of course working regular jobs while we build up our own channel/brand/whatever is an option too, if we need to.

As another quick side-note, I also have a relatively newfound love for theme parks (and to a lesser extent, water parks), and would LOVE to get to go to theme parks together pretty regularly once we know each other well enough to take trips like that together (and when we can afford to, the prices of traveling and things have gone up a LOT in the last year and a half). As long as you think you'd enjoy that too, it's fine whether you're a veteran theme park enthusiast or have never been to one. Also, I'm curious to check out some amusement parks in the very near future as well! [Theme parks = lots of theming, i.e. Disney World/Land, Universal Studios; Amusement parks = Lots of rides (i.e. rollercoasters) but usually little or no theming] Oh, and someday in the future, I'd love to be able to take our (future) kids there as well.

Before I get too far ahead of myself, let you tell you a little about me. I'm 38 (but I look a bit younger), white, 5'11" and relatively slim at 160 lbs. I'm single, never married, and don't have any kids (so far, but hopefully someday haha). I enjoy walking and jogging in the park, as well as exploring new parks / seeing new places and new scenery. Although it's 100 times better when I have someone to enjoy that with and talk to meanwhile! <3 Anyways, I do have a number of nerdy interests - games, movies, anime, computers, science stuff, etc., but I can also enjoy long conversations with a date, walks in the park - or on the beach, playing board, card, or video games together, or sports, etc. Plus I'm open to learning some interests of yours - I can't promise I'll be interested in all of your interests, but it's extremely likely that I'd at least enjoy hearing you talk about them, and some of them I may be happy to join you in (this is very likely). We don't need to share ALL of the same interests, as long as we share a few haha. As far as games go, I'm primarily (almost entirely) a PC gamer, but I occasionally play some console games (primarily older consoles). My favorite thing to do is to cuddle up and watch something fun or interesting, such as movies, YouTube (I watch a lot of YouTube), Anime, Netflix, or Kdramas. So you need to at minimum be someone whom would enjoy cuddling up and watching things together with me haha ... but then, almost everyone enjoys doing that.

As the title says, while ideally I'd love to find someone within 3 hours of Harrisonburg, VA, I'm willing to consider someone anywhere in the US (probably just the lower 48 states). Drives longer than 3 hours are definitely still very plausible, even 8 or 10 hours perhaps, and flying is an option if you live significantly further away (plus points if you live anywhere remotely near a major airport, but that's not a requirement). Anyways, my point is, if you're further away than a few hours drive, I'd need you to be willing to travel / work with the distance when the time comes - particularly with the drastically increased costs of gas/travel these days. For example, if you're pretty far away, then after the first visit or two, we'd probably need to be planning longer visits when one of us travels to the other. Anyways, I'm not looking to rush into meeting, but I'm also NOT INTERESTED in an online only relationship. We need to start meeting in person in the relatively near future (i.e. a few weeks at most (possibly several weeks if you're far), assuming we talk a good bit during those few weeks). Also, I'm willing to come to you the first visit (or perhaps more) if you're far, but after the first visit or two you'd need to be willing to visit me (I might be willing to pay for your flight if you can't, we'll see), as that's going to be a LOT cheaper than me flying out somewhere, getting a hotel, and renting a car. On the other hand, if you're much closer, within a reasonably driving range, if needed I could pick you up in my car once you're ready to visit (and I can just drive to you for the first few visits). And if you're within 3 hours or so drive, I'm happy to drive to you for several visits at first, until you're ready to visit me. Regardless of the timing, I'm not going to pressure you do visit me before you're comfortable doing so, and it's something we can play by ear. For example, if you're someone that's super shy I understand if it takes a few extra times of me visiting you before you're ready to visit me, or perhaps we need to chat some extra time first, etc.

Well, thanks for reading my rather long post haha, hopefully I've piqued your interest, and if so, I'd love to hear from you! Certainly feel free to ask me any questions you may have, either if you're interested, or if you're curious but need to know some more before you know if you're interested haha. Also, I'm happy to exchange some (clean!) pictures of each other after a few messages. On that note, when you message me, please tell me at least a little about you (i.e. age, race, height/weight, and a little about you and what you're looking for). Thanks again, and hopefully this can be a great opportunity for both of us, and the start of something amazing!